Carolyn Hax: Son’s father-in-law called your covid advice ‘sanctimonious.’ How to respond?
Last thing. I may be overstepping myself with this hunch, but I see two confident, highly intelligent people — you, the eminent scientist — who have detection systems that react strongly to condescension. To get along with this guy, you might need to override your system manually, if not completely shut it off. And just in general, whenever possible, always — avail yourself of opportunities not to take other people and their behaviors personally.