Carolyn Hax: They stayed away to protect his health, but covid-denier dad sees it differently
The second force you might be able to co-opt is shrewd attention to what he does — and doesn’t — want to hear. Don’t harangue him about vaccines. Don’t slam his information sources. If he baits you, don’t bite. Make your calls, letters, commemorations, recommendations and invitations reflect your relationship, memories, shared interests.