Carolyn Hax: Spouse who rants ‘on a daily basis’ is a study in anger mismanagement

I suggest you read “The Gift of Fear” by Gavin de Becker — not necessarily because I think your husband is going to turn violent, though I could make a case for his being abusive in the quantity and intensity of the anger alone, even if it’s not at you. I recommend it because it’s a really useful, clear, memorable exploration of what “normal” is — and isn’t. I urge everyone to read it, actually, if for no other reason than to calibrate one’s own relationship-health sensors.