Carolyn Hax: Grudge over the wedding-day seating chart enters Year 8, and counting

Your daughter-in-law seated her family onstage with her and seated you on the moon. Your child went along with this. Your daughter-in-law’s antipathy to you has withstood the test of time, as has your child’s acquiescence to it. Your child saw the crossroads, thought about it, and took the Wife road, and has remained on it since. This is all too big to fix without your child or daughter-in-law wanting to fix it.