Carolyn Hax: Boyfriend keeps borrowing money, and she feels mostly alone

That’s because fair contributions to a relationship are all non-monetary. Think about it: Does your making all the money, as you have at times over the past couple of years, get you off the hook for being kind, loving, thoughtful, attentive, considerate, interested, aware? No. So it’s really about being present, and sharing a life, and not pushing burdens onto someone under the guise of romantic partnership.