Carolyn Hax: The modern triangle — boyfriend, girlfriend, and the ex tattooed on his wrist

His feelings: He may still love his ex-wife, sure. But many other things will reveal how he feels about her — and more important, about you — better than an old tattoo can. How does he treat you, does he give you his full attention, does he listen to you? Is he present? Or are you making most of the effort? Heed current messages, not old ones. If you have doubts about the relationship, then address those, not the tat. If your relationship is good, then the tattoo is just ink.