Carolyn Hax: Does moving out have to be the end for a couple, or can it be a beginning?

D.C.: Put him in perspective. People say all kinds of horrible stuff, about people they hate, love, know, don’t know, have no opinion about, want for themselves — and they say it for reasons good, selfish, selfless, caring, careless, staunchly defended, quickly regretted, totally understandable, easily misunderstood out of context. Or because they’re jerks.