Carolyn Hax: In wake of parents’ devastating divorce, a boyfriend sours on marriage
A more realistic, therefore more effective alternative — not to mention healthier, I think — is to promise things you actually can deliver. Say, to treat him with respect. To listen to him, to be honest, to share feelings, to weigh his needs as the equal to your own, to admit mistakes fully, freely and quickly. To tend the flames.
Source: WP