Carolyn Hax: Losing a dad with early Alzheimer’s to covid is a lot to process at once

Please consider, though, that people who air hard feelings only to have them blasted with sunshine can feel as if they’re being dismissed, negated, not heard. So if nothing else: “I hear what you’re saying, and I’m sorry. I have a positive spin if you’re interested.” It’s a good habit to make sure you have listened to and acknowledged what someone else is saying, on its own merits, before you launch into your piece.