Carolyn Hax: Out-of-work husband wants you to goof off with him while you’re working

Re: Up the Wall: When my husband retired while I was still working, we had six months of off and on tense times. Finally, after a stupid argument, he yelled, “I’m waiting for you to jump in!” I asked him what I was supposed to “jump in” to? Well, he didn’t even know. It finally led to a discussion about how our roles were reversed and that his current feelings reflected mine for so many years. Work doesn’t allow us to “jump in” to someone else’s newly freed up time easily. Just talking about it helped almost 100 percent.